Sister Site TriToFly.com

I am happy to share our sister site with you. It revolves around a healthy lifestyle triggered by the sport of triathlon… the story of a couple who love, train, and live an active lifestyle.

The gentleman, Jesse, has been a triathlete well over ten years. Having competed in Iron Man’s, Olympic, and Sprint distance triathlons, Jesse applied the same tools acquired by the structure of the sport, to his life.

The results were nothing short of amazing.

Jesse had an absolutely horrific childhood, and as an adult, he struggled greatly. His mental health was ignored, and it was a matter of time before he had a mental break. Then as he approached his 30’s, he got involved in the sport of triathlon. His determination, bad ass athletic abilities, and ability to go deep and suffer had made him a top triathlete.

Then he met Riss… and they fell madly in love.

He taught Riss all the things he had learned, and they began training together. Even though Jesse hasn’t competed in over a year, running, cycling, and hiking is now a huge part of their lives… and neither rules out the possibility of future competitions.

The training is a must for both of them, regardless of the finish line. What is important is that all that exercise is not only good for you physically, but it is also great for you mentally.

Check it out… TRITOFLY – and sign up for notifications! Since it is self-hosted, it doesn’t show up in the reader, and if you want updates, you will need to subscribe with your email.

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Riding The Waves Of Life

We all have to ride the waves of life… the ups and downs of normal events and then the ups and downs that accompany a severe storm. Nobody is immune to this.

Sometimes when I am talking to somebody and I mention being bipolar, they feel the need to brush it aside like it is nothing by saying, “everyone is bipolar, we all have ups and downs.” While I want to poke them in the eye for throwing us all into the same hand basket, there is some truth to it.

Yes, we all have the blues from time to time, especially when something bad is going on in our lives. Everyone does experience some form of mania and depression in their lighter forms. So what separates those diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder from the rest of the population? (Using the word ‘normal’ very loosely here.)

When depression and mania affects our living standards, we have a problem. When you can’t work because you have been crying every single day, there is a problem. When you are so manic that you decide to up and quit your job to become a writer, yet you have no writing experience, nor do you have money saved to be able to do so… there is a problem. When you can’t get out of bed for days… when you are flirting with suicidal ideation… there is a problem. I could go on and on with examples for you, but I think you get the point.

Can you see the difference between normal, and mentally ill? Yes, we all experience these things, but for most people, it doesn’t last week after week, month after month, year after year. For those of us battling Bipolar disorder (also known as manic depression), life can be affected in such a detrimental way, held captive by huge mood swings.

To those riding those stormy waves, I promise you that the storm will one day pass, and the waves become more gentle, or perhaps even welcomed. For those I call “normal”, ride your waves too, and if it ever becomes too rough, I am here to inspire you to get back up on that board and ride…

I am always here to help inspire, and remind that things do get better. If I can… I KNOW others can too. 

With Equal Fervor

With equal fervor, you both blind me…

One with darkness and the other with light.

You both flaunt the talent to empower me…

One kicks me down,

The other makes me soar oh-so- high.

With equal fervor, you both bring me harm…

One removes all hope, The other entices me with moon beams and starlight.

You both need each other to succeed…

The high needs the low, the low needs the high.

With equal fervor, you are a drug…

One brings Doom and Gloom, The other Fire and Desires so bright.

You both are a burden,

One weighs heavily, The other a “hell” hidden behind enticing bright lights.

With equal Fervor, you are both monsters…

in your own right.

A BipolarQuote by Alyssa Reyans, Letters From A Bipolar Mother

This quote resonates with me so much. Inside my head, I can hear my ‘true’ self screaming YES!!! Finally someone totally gets it… I am not completely alone in this world. I’m not as rare as I once thought.

Truly!

After my last mental health breakdown… which was a culmination of several years ranging from 2008 until about 2017. I often thought “who the f*ck am I? Will I ever get me back? Am I lost for good? Was the “me” I use to be the real one, or was I this person all along?

I now have the answer to those questions because for the first time in years, I look into that mirror, and with tears, I see who it was I loved… I see myself again. I see the compassion, and love, I see the person that others came to know and love. I lost myself to this cruel disorder. The shell of me, because of the bipolar 1 disorder that ran rampant like a wildfire in my head, that girl who I couldn’t stand looking at… that person was now gone. I hope she never returns, and I strive each day to move forward in love for myself, and the knowledge that I have gained from my painful life experiences.

The pain is like a fire, a cleansing fire… and I fight, continue on, creating new moments, and holding on to the opportunity to fix things that went wrong. I am healing daily, and want to help those who love me and have been hurt by me… they need healing as well, we all need healing, and I will do all I can to help…

That is love… and I am love. <— notice the positive affirmation I snuck in?? -smile- being positive does rewire your brain, and the more positive affirmations I can sneak into my life, the better!

Finding Your Passions

Passion – noun 1. Strong and barely controllable emotion.

WHAT ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT??

If I could give a single piece of advice to every single person, it would be this: Find your passions, and start doing them for a better life! I know that seems sort of broad and simple, so allow me to explain.

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” Maya Angelou

What an awesome example to live by! I take it a step further… not only thriving with passion, but thriving in part because of those things I am passionate about.

Life can get brutal. We all experience the ups and downs of life throughout the years, oftentimes we take great note of the downs, and can easily forget the ups. Doing so can certainly make you feel overwhelmed, depressed, anxious, defeated, etc… the list can go on and on. If you already suffer from mental health issues, the intense swings of life can become quite unbearable. How can we all combat this little fact of life? I have found the personal answer to this question and am overjoyed to share my experience with you!

~It all boils down to passion~

Many people have families, children, friendships, work… these things alone can keep you very busy, and steal the minutes in your day. However, even though we are busy with these things that we love and enjoy, there is a huge number of people who are unhappy and completely discontent. Why do you think that is? A better question is; Can being unhappy and discontent change? The answer, as I have learned myself… ABSOLUTELY! You do not need to get stuck in that rut. -smile-

It is very easy to get caught up in the daily rituals of life… allowing them to take over every moment of free time you may have. Then, when you do actually have free time to yourself, you spend those free moments selflessly, reaching out to help others within your inner circle. While helping others is commendable, helping yourself is just as important. For some reason, many people feel as though they are being selfish when they put their needs/wants before others in their household. This is far from the truth. Taking care of yourself comes with many fantastic perks to your mental well being, and in fact, is more of a necessity than you may think. Why is that, you ask? When you put others’ needs before your own, you are telling yourself (aware of it or not) that you and your needs are not as important as others, and this dramatically affects your self esteem. I will write more about the importance of Self-Care in a follow-up blog post. For now, just know that taking time for you is one of the most important things you can do for yourself.

Everyone wants to be content and happy, but unfortunately those two things don’t always just happen on their own. It is up to each of us as individuals to find the things that evoke passion within, and then to follow through, incorporating those passions into your daily life. Isn’t your happiness worth it?? When you find the things you are passionate about, share them with others, and instill this with your loved ones. Become the perfect example of living a positive life, doing what your passionate about, and help others find their own personal passions. By practicing these things, you will help those around you to be happier, healthier, and live a more content life… on top of making you more happy, healthy, and content.

You are worth it!

Quote For May 1, 2019

Grab hold of life with both hands and make the most of every single day. Everyone’s best will not look the same, so don’t compare yourself to others. Just resolve to do the best you can within your limitations… Remove all preconceived expectations (for frustration is expectation going unmet)… Don’t become stagnant, instead focus on continuously learning something new… Put mindfulness to practice where it will benefit you, as it is highly successful in testing mood disorders and chronic pain… And continue growing in passion for yourself to live your best life!

Always be open to living… this one life is all that we know to exist, there is no other. So get to living your best life and becoming the very best you!