Sister Site TriToFly.com

I am happy to share our sister site with you. It revolves around a healthy lifestyle triggered by the sport of triathlon… the story of a couple who love, train, and live an active lifestyle.

The gentleman, Jesse, has been a triathlete well over ten years. Having competed in Iron Man’s, Olympic, and Sprint distance triathlons, Jesse applied the same tools acquired by the structure of the sport, to his life.

The results were nothing short of amazing.

Jesse had an absolutely horrific childhood, and as an adult, he struggled greatly. His mental health was ignored, and it was a matter of time before he had a mental break. Then as he approached his 30’s, he got involved in the sport of triathlon. His determination, bad ass athletic abilities, and ability to go deep and suffer had made him a top triathlete.

Then he met Riss… and they fell madly in love.

He taught Riss all the things he had learned, and they began training together. Even though Jesse hasn’t competed in over a year, running, cycling, and hiking is now a huge part of their lives… and neither rules out the possibility of future competitions.

The training is a must for both of them, regardless of the finish line. What is important is that all that exercise is not only good for you physically, but it is also great for you mentally.

Check it out… TRITOFLY – and sign up for notifications! Since it is self-hosted, it doesn’t show up in the reader, and if you want updates, you will need to subscribe with your email.

Riding The Waves Of Life

We all have to ride the waves of life… the ups and downs of normal events and then the ups and downs that accompany a severe storm. Nobody is immune to this.

Sometimes when I am talking to somebody and I mention being bipolar, they feel the need to brush it aside like it is nothing by saying, “everyone is bipolar, we all have ups and downs.” While I want to poke them in the eye for throwing us all into the same hand basket, there is some truth to it.

Yes, we all have the blues from time to time, especially when something bad is going on in our lives. Everyone does experience some form of mania and depression in their lighter forms. So what separates those diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder from the rest of the population? (Using the word ‘normal’ very loosely here.)

When depression and mania affects our living standards, we have a problem. When you can’t work because you have been crying every single day, there is a problem. When you are so manic that you decide to up and quit your job to become a writer, yet you have no writing experience, nor do you have money saved to be able to do so… there is a problem. When you can’t get out of bed for days… when you are flirting with suicidal ideation… there is a problem. I could go on and on with examples for you, but I think you get the point.

Can you see the difference between normal, and mentally ill? Yes, we all experience these things, but for most people, it doesn’t last week after week, month after month, year after year. For those of us battling Bipolar disorder (also known as manic depression), life can be affected in such a detrimental way, held captive by huge mood swings.

To those riding those stormy waves, I promise you that the storm will one day pass, and the waves become more gentle, or perhaps even welcomed. For those I call “normal”, ride your waves too, and if it ever becomes too rough, I am here to inspire you to get back up on that board and ride…

I am always here to help inspire, and remind that things do get better. If I can… I KNOW others can too. 

With Equal Fervor

With equal fervor, you both blind me…

One with darkness and the other with light.

You both flaunt the talent to empower me…

One kicks me down,

The other makes me soar oh-so- high.

With equal fervor, you both bring me harm…

One removes all hope, The other entices me with moon beams and starlight.

You both need each other to succeed…

The high needs the low, the low needs the high.

With equal fervor, you are a drug…

One brings Doom and Gloom, The other Fire and Desires so bright.

You both are a burden,

One weighs heavily, The other a “hell” hidden behind enticing bright lights.

With equal Fervor, you are both monsters…

in your own right.

Finding Your Passions

Passion – noun 1. Strong and barely controllable emotion.

WHAT ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT??

If I could give a single piece of advice to every single person, it would be this: Find your passions, and start doing them for a better life! I know that seems sort of broad and simple, so allow me to explain.

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” Maya Angelou

What an awesome example to live by! I take it a step further… not only thriving with passion, but thriving in part because of those things I am passionate about.

Life can get brutal. We all experience the ups and downs of life throughout the years, oftentimes we take great note of the downs, and can easily forget the ups. Doing so can certainly make you feel overwhelmed, depressed, anxious, defeated, etc… the list can go on and on. If you already suffer from mental health issues, the intense swings of life can become quite unbearable. How can we all combat this little fact of life? I have found the personal answer to this question and am overjoyed to share my experience with you!

~It all boils down to passion~

Many people have families, children, friendships, work… these things alone can keep you very busy, and steal the minutes in your day. However, even though we are busy with these things that we love and enjoy, there is a huge number of people who are unhappy and completely discontent. Why do you think that is? A better question is; Can being unhappy and discontent change? The answer, as I have learned myself… ABSOLUTELY! You do not need to get stuck in that rut. -smile-

It is very easy to get caught up in the daily rituals of life… allowing them to take over every moment of free time you may have. Then, when you do actually have free time to yourself, you spend those free moments selflessly, reaching out to help others within your inner circle. While helping others is commendable, helping yourself is just as important. For some reason, many people feel as though they are being selfish when they put their needs/wants before others in their household. This is far from the truth. Taking care of yourself comes with many fantastic perks to your mental well being, and in fact, is more of a necessity than you may think. Why is that, you ask? When you put others’ needs before your own, you are telling yourself (aware of it or not) that you and your needs are not as important as others, and this dramatically affects your self esteem. I will write more about the importance of Self-Care in a follow-up blog post. For now, just know that taking time for you is one of the most important things you can do for yourself.

Everyone wants to be content and happy, but unfortunately those two things don’t always just happen on their own. It is up to each of us as individuals to find the things that evoke passion within, and then to follow through, incorporating those passions into your daily life. Isn’t your happiness worth it?? When you find the things you are passionate about, share them with others, and instill this with your loved ones. Become the perfect example of living a positive life, doing what your passionate about, and help others find their own personal passions. By practicing these things, you will help those around you to be happier, healthier, and live a more content life… on top of making you more happy, healthy, and content.

You are worth it!

Check Out New Blog

I am thrilled to share that I have launched a new site to go along with a guide I am writing detailing how I managed to make changes to my physical and mental health, leading to some very profound experiences.

I decided to share my passions and use it as an opportunity to help others who are looking to change for the better, detailing exactly how I got to this point.

With great happiness… I announce my new blog titled:

becomingtheverybestyou.com

There I will share my experiences, positive affirmations, and mindfulness… as well as exercise and weight loss information. I will continue journaling, writing poetry, and sharing other mental health information here at thebipolarmuse.

I hope to see you there!!!

Writing My First Book!

I am happy to tell you that I have been writing like a lunatic on what will be my first book! I have been in love with words for as long as I can recall, and I decided that I will never know how I can do writing and publishing if I never give it a try! Of course, writing here is my first love, but writing for a new project is very exciting. I am going to be setting up an account on UpWork, and Fiver, to write for others and help them to acquire their own little slice of the blogging world. Both of these projects are very exciting for me, and while I am terrified, I am confident that with determination, and an insane amount of hard work, I WILL be successful in the way that is perfect for me!

I cannot begin to tell you how much passion I have to share my experience with others… to give them hope in various ways… to let them know they are not alone in their struggles. Perhaps that seems obvious considering the subject matter of this blog, mental health, bipolar disorder specifically. Even more exciting, I will detail each step I took to get to the beautiful place I am at … my state of Becoming the best me. In doing so, it is my hugest hope that others will be able to make life changes for the better, and that they too will experience the amazing gift of the present moment given by finding what they are passionate about… and then doing them! Everything else in the world will start lining up.

I want to share how I came to understand this, because I know it can truly help so many people. Life is short, and it is a beautiful ride that nobody should miss out on, yet, many do. Life is very hard, but it is so worth the effort. I want everyone to experience happiness, peace, love, contentment… hope. My own experience is one I can draw from, and though my life has been very difficult in the past, by incorporating these four principles; being positively mindful, zero judgement, and love & forgiveness, I became passionate for myself and found different things in life I am passionate about… leading me to the greatest state of “Being” I have ever experienced.

This amazing state of “Being” is something every single person should grow to attain… I cannot explain how wonderful it feels to work on and remove the mental baggage I carried with me for so many years. In losing that mental baggage, I have been able to get other areas of my life better together, and this “better forward motion” marches on. With this wonderful result, I must share it with others, and so I write… my very first book. Exciting stuff right?! I think so….

So, not only am I writing for the book, I will be starting a 2nd blog specifically for the book I am writing. I am very excited to get it rolling… as I look forward to being a positive light for others who are still languishing in the darkness…

Treadmill or Dreadmill? Improve your relationship with your treadmill.

I am one of (likely) very few people who actually loves jumping on the treadmill. In fact, most people think of theirs as a “dreadmill”… sitting in the corner of some obscure room, collecting dust and cobwebs, emanating a spooky “creature of the night” vibe, just waiting to become the death of them. It is a reminder of just how long a single minute, just 60 measly seconds, can feel like a long moment in Hell. How did I get so lucky to have a love affair with my treadmill?

I make my treadmill work for me instead of the other way around.

Using my treadmill as a tool to escape… in particular, a tool to escape into a good book. I have found myself completing a half marathon walking in various speeds and inclines, simply because the book I am reading is so captivating, and the last thing I want is to stop reading… and so instead of jumping off my treadmill to continue reading I honor my agreement with myself: If I want to read, I have to do it on the treadmill… and so I walk.

Now, I have not always had such love for the human hamster wheel, I certainly have had my share of a “dreadmill” stand-off… especially as I introduced running to my routine. Though I would come to dread jumping on that torture trap, I came to realize that the treadmills of today are not your Mom’s treadmill and to put it simply, treadmills are not all created equal. If you want to make your cardio time on your treadmill feel productive and enjoyable (imagine being out in nature… it doubles as great meditation practice), definitely do your research and find the best treadmill that money can buy for the price-point you can afford. You don’t have to be miserable on your treadmill any longer!

Take time to research the different models and all the bells and whistles that are important to you. If you want not only an incline setting, but also a decline setting, that is possible… as is a treadmill with a great shock system to help protect the joints in your body. Many treadmills have built in programs with different workout options from a simple walk, to intense inclines to help you burn fat and work your cardiovascular system. I’ve even seen systems with two tracks, one for each foot to land on, simulating trail walking/jogging. No matter what you are looking for, with a little patience and due diligence, you are sure to find it.

Those bells and whistles I mention do not come free and you will find that the more intricate the treadmill, the more money you will be spending. Personally, a higher quality product with few “extra’s” is the way to go… the motor will be strong, the unit stable, the incline will be sufficient, and the built-in programs definitely give you a run for your money (pun intended). This is the type of treadmill I went for. The display isn’t too huge, so I use an over the door hook to hook onto the display in order to hold my Kindle for my reading sessions. For the most part, I am able to do intervals, even full on jogging, and my Kindle doesn’t budge.

If all else fails, and you still feel as though the treadmill is a dreadmill, put it in front of a T.V. and do your treadmill training while watching your favorite television programs. This should prove to be a great distraction, possibly even helping you look forward to your next treadmill session. Working out doesn’t have to be miserable, nor does it have to be at full intensity. Just 30 minutes a day will improve your cardiovascular health dramatically, help you lose weight, reduce stress, boost both your mood and your energy levels, and improve your memory, productivity, and creativity. That sounds like a fantastic trade-off for just 30 minutes of your time, especially when those 30 minutes can be a simple brisk walk… you don’t have to put out max effort to reap the rewards!

So no matter how you feel about jumping on that human hamster wheel, you certainly owe it to yourself. Find what helps you to endure just 30 minutes… and watch as you add time to your lifespan… You are worth the effort!

What Are Your Passions?

As time goes by and life moves forward, I have found the secret to living a content, thriving, and happy life lies in where you put your time. It is easy to get sucked in and allow negativity to govern your mind. This is absolutely exhausting to me, so I have focused on brainstorming ideas that bring me a peace that I have not known. I am so excited about this that I have begun writing about it, and as I get closer to completing my writings, I will share what I have learned with you.

What are you passionate about? Do you love getting outside for hikes, jogs, or simply to walk and take in your surroundings? Perhaps you love to cycle, or go to the gym… no matter what it is that you enjoy doing, just Do IT. I have found that if I can become passionate about more things in my daily life, and add these things to my daily activities, life becomes bearable… more-so than making it bearable, it makes life fun and enjoyable!!

Personally, I love to get out for simple walks around my small town, or head towards nearby mountains for some awesome hikes. These activities release dopamine, and endorphins… our feel good chemicals… which make me not only feel happy on a mental level, but also make me feel good as a whole. I wanted to create these feel good moments without needing to leave my home, because unfortunately, health conditions can at times keep me from getting outside. So how can I produce the same “feel good” emotions while being home and indoors? I jumped online and started researching different activities to find my unicorn. Low and behold, I found a couple different options that I found intriguing. First things first, I do replicate the outdoors within my home. I have a treadmill and a bike trainer to continue those activities inside when getting out isn’t an option for me… but I needed more, I needed to find something that gave me the same mental boost without a workout.

It took a bit of time but I found great satisfaction from several places. 1. I love to write. Since writing is a HUGE passion of mine, I was pleasantly surprised by my guy, as he got me a Chromebook laptop so I can continue writing to my hearts content. 2. I love anything and everything SPACE. I am researching about our world, and our universe… learning the different laws that we exist within. I find tremendous excitement over learning about not only our planet, but the planets and star systems that make up outer space. Each day I am enthralled to learn more, and as I learn more, the more passionate I am about our Universe. The more I learn and look into space, the more I am convinced of a Creator. I will get into that more later… so for now…

Do everything you can to find things you are passionate about… doing so will make you feel more content, more satisfied with this life we are given. We all have ups and downs, and the downs can get the best of us… but finding the things that wake you up inside will give you a more satisfied life. We cannot control the curve-balls life can throw, and the ups and downs will always be there, they are not a choice… but how you choose to react is a big deal. It can mean the difference between being a little down, to downright miserable. As they say… pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

Whichever animal you feed, it will grow. So if you are constantly feeding into negativity, we already know the outcome… that negativity will just grow and grow. Starve out the bad and it will not flourish… find your passions and pursue them with all of your strength… your happiness is worth it!

YOU ARE WORTH IT.

Ransom Notes

 ransomnotes

Traveling in these wicked twists and turns in my head.

How has this happened? I would love to find,

A most comfortable place to rest my mind.

Hide.

These winding turns, alluring, they may be.

I do not want to pick this ugly fight.

Though you hold me hostage, with strength, Might.

I FIGHT.

I have begged for your unearned trust.

You leave invisible Ransom Notes,

Promises. Just as invisible. Sinking boat.

Yet I float.

I cannot make happen, what will not be.

I cannot force an aching heart, to feel,

That which it will not, that which isn’t ideal.

I heal.

©thebipolarmuse2012

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 I am passionate about writing… having fallen in love with poetry when I was 11 after an assignment in school in which I had to memorize and recite poems. I loved how poems could be elusive, inspiring discussions about what the writer is trying to convey. Oftentimes, words can be stringed together to create a beautiful poem that seems to be about a specific person or object, even if the true subject matter isn’t about a particular person, or time in life, but rather about an inanimate object.

That is the beauty in writing.