The question for each man to settle is not what he would do if he had the means, time, influence, and educational advantages, but what he will do with the things he has. – Hamilton Wright Mabie
Being happy with what we have in front of us is something that has to be learned… and often in a painful way. Take it heart when I say the grass is rarely greener on the other side. In fact, It is quite lush and wonderful right where you stand… you just fail to see it.
For as long as I can remember, I have felt “unaccomplished” and angry that I have wasted precious time. That I cannot hold my head high because I don’t have a college degree or a prestigious career.
But I see things so differently now. Sure, if I had the time and the means, I could go back to school and spend years getting a degree. HOWEVER, having or not having, does not define me. I wasted that precious time held captive by a belittling belief that I am less worthy because I have “less”.
Now, I see things in a new way. A shift in perspective and thinking allowed me to see things for what they really are. I am fortunate that I have less, enjoy the simpler things in my life, and have found that I define who I am. In fact, I define my happiness and am responsible for validating myself.
It doesn’t mean I will not set goals and challenge myself… of course, I will. However, I will not berate myself like I once did over what I perceived as failures and successes.
My perception is changing, growing, and is kinder.
What do I have? Four amazing children, a new-found love for who I am and who I am becoming daily, a world with endless possibilities, the daylight to guide me and energize me, the moonlight to soothe my soul and inspire me to reach for the stars, people who love me dearly and wish for nothing more than me to be happy, the breeze at my back, spark in my eyes, and endless opportunities to continue in self-growth.
Life has become beautiful… it always has been…pain just blocked it from my view…
Now I can see clearly. ♥